Ommunication (interpersonal communication)

Paper Instruction

1. Choose one major area of interpersonal communication such as emotional intelligence, social media, fierce conversations, communication of identity, nonverbal communication, perceiving and listening, expressing and disclosing, and conflict.
2. Describe some significant experiences of interpersonal communication that involved the area you have chosen and then analyze these experiences using concepts from this area. The incidents must involve communication between you and someone else and cannot be the observation of communication between other people. Fictional characters or scenarios are also not appropriate.
3. Make sure to describe the context and what happens in the incident. You can briefly mention the background of the relationship, the setting and situation, what the other person said and did, what you felt, and how the communication affected the relationship. But do not go into so much detail that the description is as long as the analysis.
4. Description of the experience should precede the analysis. What actually took place serves as evidence for the accuracy of your analysis and the implications that you draw from it.
5. Conclude the paper by discussing the ways in which your communication was effective and fell short. What could you do to improve your communication?

Sample Areas of Interpersonal Communication
a. emotional intelligence: the relation between reason and emotion, intelligence about emotions and intelligent emotions, the role of self-awareness, managing our own emotions, managing othersa emotions, and empathy
b. social media: inviting loneliness, Internet paradox, personalized use of Facebook, Facebook and friendships, Facebook as merely a tool, self-presenting, digital intimacy, narcissism, the new isolation
c. fierce conversations: relationships succeed or fail one conversation at a time, the conversation is the relationship, what a fierce conversation is, engaging in more fierce conversations
d. communication of identity: identity as social rather than individual construction, performing identity, face and embarrassment, an accountable self, crucial identity questions, denial and exaggeration, grounding identity, making mistakes, complex intentions, contributing to the problem
e. nonverbal communication: the inseparability of verbal and nonverbal signals, communicating liking, power, and responsiveness, expressing emotions, managing identity, behavioral synchrony, showing the current state of a relationship, moving to a different type of relationship
f. perceiving and listening: perception as active process, selecting, organizing, and inferring, cognitive schemata, person prototypes, impression formation, attribution, stereotyping, totalizing, mindful listening, mindfulness, one-pointed concentration, empathic listening, focusing, encouraging, and reflecting skills, what dialogue is, focusing on a?ours,a? paraphrase plus
g. openness, self-disclosure, appropriate disclosures, motives for disclosure, goal of clarity, entitled to be heard, start with what matters most, be straightforward, communicate complexity, provisionalism, share where your conclusions come from, ask for paraphrases
h. conflict: either/or and both/and power, relational theory of power, individual power currencies, communication of lower-power people, verbal aggression, effective argument, positive aspects of conflict, conflict is based in interaction, realistic and nonrealistic conflicts, productive conflict interaction, generative and degenerative spirals, altering degenerative spirals, paradoxes and conundrums, unresolved relationship issues, creating the relationship terrain, rules for ruining any discussion, purpose of discussion
i. dialogue: meaning through, mutual sculpting of meanings, holding your own ground while letting others happen to you, the interhuman, imagining the real, confirmation, genuine dialogue versus technical dialogue and monologue disguised as dialogue

COMMUNICATION STUDIES 115: Dyadic Communication and Interpersonal Relationships (Winter 2013)

Instructor: Dr. Bill Kelly
Time: M-W-F 9:00-9:50
Office: 2320 Rolfe
Office Hours: M-W-F 10:00-10:50

Course Content
The dialogical approach to interpersonal communication and the relational perspective are the foundations of the course. There will be an emphasis on the ways in which communication affects social and personal identities, the process of effective communication in friendships and relationships, and the application of current knowledge to real-life issues. Among the issues covered will be emotional intelligence, listening, expression, communication with family members, friends, and intimate partners, communication barriers, managing conflict, and promoting dialogue.

Course Texts
John Stewart (ed.), Bridges Not Walls (eleventh edition). New York: McGraw-Hill, 2012.

Academic Dishonesty
Plagiarism from sources such as websites or other studentsa papers will result in a zero for the assignment. The dean in charge of administrative sanctions will be notified and the student may be suspended.

Grade Appeals
Grades may be appealed if you can demonstrate that your grade for the assignment was not suitable. Submit a one-page appeal stating the reasons why you believe your grade should be revised. Your grade may be lowered as well as raised when reevaluated. The appeal must be submitted no later than one week after the paper has been returned and before your grade on the final has been posted.

Course Requirements
Two Exams--60%
Midterm (2/13) and final (3/18, 11:30-2:30) will each have 30 multiple-choice questions, and each exam will be 30% of the total grade.

Papera 40%
Paper instructions will be given during the second week of class.

Communication Studies 115 Paper Instructions

The paper should be five pages (double spaced, 12 inch font). Due date: 3/1